BESTIE'S vs BABY

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I was scrolling through my whatsapp stories when I came across a post from someone saying " bestie is the real deal, dating is just a title". I was visibly pissed and you might say triggered.
I'm sure we have also come across similar joke's from our Instagram comedians in their skits. 

The role of a best friend/bestie has been so devalued lately in Nigeria. Where we are supposed to value the individuality of a bestie of the opposite gender, I hear it's more about sexualy escapades at the expense of one party being in a relationship with someone else. 
This doesn't sit right with me in any sense, cause I'm a Disney child, I grew up with SHAKE IT UP (CeCe and Rocky), AUSTIN AND ALLY (the two secondary characters) where the definition of a best friend was someone who would stick to you no matter the situation and gear you up to perform at your best and vice versa. 
It wasn't a pathetic excuse to cheat,  it's supposed to be you putting your hormones in check and putting your self worth and value first. 
If you have a partner who has a "bestie" of the opposite sex here in Nigeria, it's very easy to get insecure or begin to suspect cases of infidelity.
Because you know that you can easily be forked over when the person needs someone emotionally or mentally, then now add physically. 
So yes it is tasking on maintaining a relationship here, personally once I notice you rate me and you "bestie" equally and you're triggered when I ask certain questions, I'm on the way to back out of the relationship. That's my red flag. That's where I'd call quits.
But if you know how to maintain a healthy balance between your best friend and know where to draw the line, I'm cool. It still goes down to how intelligent your partner is, if he or she is so open with everyone and doesn't keep boundaries, you know what to do.

I don't want to Shame having a best friend, I don't have any, but there are a few girls in my circle that I can count on with a great portion of my life. But I want show how I feel about how the new "bestie" trend doesn't feel right with me.


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Comments

  1. Anonymous23 May 2020 at 00:11

    It's a very strange thing, cuz if I like you, I'ma just come out and say it. But, in Nigeria, people tend to hide under the "bestie" guise for as long as possible. I really don't get it.

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  2. Unknown23 May 2020 at 05:16

    I'm honestly still trying to understand this whole 'bestie' matter. What's the big idea?

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  3. Unknown23 May 2020 at 05:16

    I'm honestly still trying to understand this whole 'bestie' matter. What's the big idea?

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